Some would say memory brings life after death. Perhaps there’s truth in that, but only if we’re content to enjoy our recollections at soft distance, as passing flickers or occasional sparks. If we’re grasping and desperate, if we want it all too much, if we reach out and try to touch it, what happens then? It fades so fast from view that we’re left wondering if it was ever there at all. Perhaps the trick is to find a gentle use for memory. Learn to cup the small and glorious moments in our hands and treasure them, finding some solace this way. Otherwise, all they do is remind us that we are too late. That what is lost is lost forever.
From Emylia Hall’s The Book of Summers (pg. 323)