Til Death…Or Til Our Contract Expires

Have you heard about this?  Any thoughts?  Are these temporary, time-limited relationships good for marriage in your opinion?  What might this say about a country’s value of marriage if these types of laws passed?  Would you advocate for something like this given the number of people who divorce?

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2 thoughts on “Til Death…Or Til Our Contract Expires

  1. Take it for what it’s worth coming from someone in the “honeymoon” phase of their marriage, but it seems to me that so much of the focus of society is on the actual ceremony and aftereffects, and not nearly enough on the relationship leading up to it and the reasons for actually going through with it.

    In an increasingly individualistic society, deep problem solving, unbiased accountability and especially strong community, stand in glaring relief to frenetic temporal whimsy and pacification. I find it very interesting that a family-centered culture like that of Mexico would be the first to propose such legislation.

    As divorce becomes the majority and norm, and marriages continue to erode at an ever-increasing rate, here’s a liberal and progressive idea for you – a government that works with its people to reverse that trend and promote, strengthen and uphold the contracts it issues! (Not provide ways out of or around them!)

    Maybe the root of the divorce rate is too deep and intricately woven into society to fix, but it seems like there should be a much greater social responsibility in granting legal contracts such as a marriage license.

    Now, I’m not necessarily proposing that the government decide whether or not a couple should be allowed to legally wed, or on what grounds they would make that decision; nor am I even proposing that the immediate families and friends of the betrothed do so.

    What I am saying is this: For the same reason all facets and facts are verified, scrutinized and analysed in depth by all involved parties before most other legal contracts are signed, and then nurtured and supported afterwards, why is there not a greater demand for responsibility to do the same on behalf of the betrothed when they sign their contract?

    • Josh, these words are worth a lot. I think you’re on it by reframing the conversation to the promotion and strengthening of the marriage relationship. It assumes some of the things already in place for a society that grants marriages, and it wisely points to potential ways to better use resources.

      Why not have people trained to help marriages and specifically promote them? Of course, to some extent this happens, but it doesn’t happen (i.e., people being promoted to help marriages, organizations working to ready couples for marriage) to the degree that, say, event planners are highlighted. As you’re getting at, it’s common for solutions like divorce to be popularized. Maybe part of it is with a relative ease in treating marriage like it is a contractual relationship. But marriage is more than that, right? And it needs to be respected as more than a legal relationship. Even for people who don’t allow that marriage is a spiritual commitment, it does spill beyond language, legal or otherwise. I think it’d be worth it to have a world that helps people prepare well for the life commitment that is marriage. Of course, though, that assumes that a life commitment is inside the working understanding of marriage and a two-year one.

      Thanks for the comment.

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