I talked with a brother who’s in an interracial marriage last week. Then I saw this article over at the Root. I’m interested in your thoughts.
When I met with my brother and friend, a young man from my church and a student in graduate school, we talked about his experiences as a newly married black man, pointing out how unique that phase in life and that particular role are. He spoke about how difficult it was to add to an already sometimes difficult phase and transition the hardships associated with how people treat him because he’s black. When he’s with his wife because she’s white at his family functions. When he’s walking down the block in a neighborhood and people are raising brows toward her.
I’m not in an interracial marriage. So that’s makes me distant from this question. But I told this man how uniquely positioned he was in–giving honor to the plain hardness of it–to exemplify what reconciliation means. I told him how inspiring and hopeful it is to know of a man who is practicing everyday something that feels so personal to him as faith. Faith is often privatized. It’s often under wraps. But this brother has put at the foundation of his marriage a way of living that is based upon grace. Not just spirituality or religious principles. The center is on “a relationship damaged and a relationship repaired.” In his case, what he means by grace and reconciliation happen everyday in his marriage and in its connections to his immediate and extended families.
He has anxiety. His wife does too, I’m sure. But when I think about how close it is in our nation’s history for the question of interracial marriage to come up in Mississippi, I’m nervous. In general, I hate the idea of people making laws around marriage. That’s because I’ve inherited a history related to that. But I’m nervous that Christians like me will sleep by this poll or the next survey. That we’ll say nothing in the public sphere or the political sphere. That’ll we’ll act like marriage and being married to people physically unlike you is not a moment for grace to be seen.
What do you think?