I completely disagree with holidays like Mother’s Day. I sit closer to the conviction that Mother’s Day is everyday.
Of course that’s not sustainable if Mother’s Day is about cards and dinners or gifts. But if the day is about acknowledging love, making gratitude known, or spending time reflecting on the important people in one’s life, then a person can get that done daily. At least in small doses.
A few years ago my mother, with our family alongside her, met a crisis in a cancer diagnosis. One of things I told my wife after that is that I’d never miss another one my mom’s birthdays or let Mother’s Day pass without doing something. It’s been five years and my track record is good. Actually this year my sister picked up the organizing ball so I’m sharing that.
To me the holiday is about celebrating people you love, marking people with your love. It is about thanking people–like parents or relatives or loved ones–who are worth compliment or praise.
One of the other things I told my wife years back was that I’d never end a conversation with my mother, that I’d let her end it. It’s small but to me, it’s a way to stretch Mother’s Day out. It’s a chance to give my mom, even though she may not notice how long our chats have become, another day where I say I love you. I make random visits or take her to breakfast, even though she would remind me that I don’t do any of these things enough.
How do you celebrate days like Mother’s Day? How do you mark the important people in your life with lavish gratitude?